Every teen at one stage or the other in their life time always ask themselves this question..." why does my dad and mum want me to be a doc or a lawyer or some other nobel professional? " . Well could it be that those are the best professions in the world? If you ask me I'd say, they are amongst the most recognised but not necessarily the best. Yes, a lot of these folks have great admiration and respects for these professions but really, are those the only good stuffs the world has got? Of course it's a Nope!.
I still can't get it why a dad in this helicopter parenting age... would want to push his boy or girl into a ward that he or she isnt prepared to get into. They say its discipline and could even involve some physical hurting to their children which is really wrong!. Yea..I know many African parents have this tenacious hold to some religious beliefs about discipling children. But it seems it skips thier minds so fast that first, teens arent kids. despite the differences, we teens arent perfect and for me I dont see hitting your teenager as medium of correction for their wrongs. That shouldn't be your first move... "you are a parent and not a teacher"... please dont misconceive my concept on that one.
As a parent you should understand the characters of your child and how handle them in a modest way. Underestimating character. If there's one thing I hope that parents could really get right in their children, it's their CORE Character, moral fiber, an inner compass... these things lay the
foundation for a happy, healthy future. They matter more than any report card or trophy ever won. They could force character on their kids, and at age 10 or 15 and those characters won't mean much. We as teens, care about short-term gratification, but you as parents, know better. You know that what will matter at 25, 30 and 40 is not how far we once threw the football, or how smart we were at pre school but how the teens see and treat others and what they think of themselves. If you as their parents and guardians want them to build character, confidence, strength and resilience, then you all need to let them face adversity and experience
the pride that follows when they come out stronger on the other side.
Ann Landers says..."it isnt all about what you do for your children but what you taught them to do for themselves that matters the most".
Although teens know their parents for thier vigilance and early involvements in activities of our lives but we need to encourage them by putting the best of characters and an opened
mind for corrections.
As expected It's really hard to see your loved ones fall, but sometimes you have to.
Sometimes you may have had to ask yourself whether intervening is in their best interest. There are a million ways to love a child, but
in your quest as a careful parent to make them happy, just stay mindful to the fact that
sometimes it takes short-term pain to earn long-term gain...
I believe a ton parents would be thrilled and fascinated by these things they subconsciously do seemingly believing that they are easing the burdens of their children. Well you might need to put these things into practice and see yourself living a sweet , peaceful and beautiful life with your teenagers and never have to feel weary when they come home on vacations...
Family is the most important thing in life and
my wish to all homes out there is.... a 'Beautiful and a Happy family!!!'.
By Carlbruce Nwajei.
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